Monday, July 21
You know how sometimes people ask for advice which wasn’t meant to be really advice, but merely facts that they wish to know more about so that they can make whatever the decision is on their own?
I never like people making decisions for me on things I deem as important. I have this philosophy, I will make my own decisions, at the very least if it is wrong, I will have no one to blame but myself. Are you going to take responsibility if the decisions you made for me are wrong? No? Shoo!
I guess I am this way towards most people, or to those people that I cannot offend, I will just pretend I going your way but really, am I?
I will listen to point of view and facts that is proven. Like when you say there is going to be a storm today and I shouldn’t head to the pool. If I look up the sky and thinks it’s sunny, I will check the weather forecast although I know sometimes it’s not accurate anyway, but I want to know you didn’t just dump me some information based on nothing, or I want to make sure you didn’t read the forecast for the wrong day. That is just an example though, I am not that much of a freak, but you get my point.
So being what I am, when people ask me for advice, I usually leave enough room for their own thinking. As much as I possibly can, I want to make sure the things I told them are as neutral as it can be. I let them decide on their own what they want to do, just the way I like it. Even when giving facts, from whichever source I draw the facts from, if I did remember that it was from a very old source, I will let them know that things may change from then, don’t take what I said as absolute, it’s just a guideline.
Being the way I am, again. I hate it when people is so sure of the facts that they got wrongly in the first place and still confidently input his opinion drawn from his “facts” and repeating many times that he is so sure that his is the right way because it worked for him a thousand years ago. On top of that, he is sure that things won’t change from then when it worked for him. Making his words the only thing you should believe in and nothing nothing else, because he ‘experienced’ it before.
Sure, maybe it is true that the amount of salt that has passed through his throat is much more than the amount of rice that had filled you up, but sometimes, his salt might just expire and he should stop being stubborn about it.
And I also hate it when someone gives you and opinion and says that this is the way it worked for her and thus this is the ONLY way it would work for anyone else in this entire universe. When pointed out that different methods have been proven to work for other people as well, she either ignored that fact and continues her believes, or she thinks you nothing but a liar who made up stories just for the sake of arguing because you want to win. Win? At what? What for? Was this a competition to begin with? Who the hell have been seeing this as some sort of a competition? Where did this come from??? At times, it really baffles me. Most of the time when it comes to this, I stay silent and let them think what they want. Or or or, the 3rd possible way they defend themselves, “maybe the person lied to you” then you bring up another example, then they pick whatever insignificant detail they can find and thinks of something that could make it wrong. It happens for every other example you brings out. She will say things like “oh, must be that one glass of cocktail you drank that night that made you a bit drunk and remember wrongly about it.” Or “must be the loud music in the shopping center, you listen wrongly la, where got such thing one.”
Ok, the thing is, although I am usually pissed when people do this to me. I will totally lose my respect to those who do such nonsensical play on people who need real facts to make major decisions that may affect them in any big way.
I can tolerate people who are trying to be a ‘smart piece of ass’, because you have to admit, sometimes they do make you laugh. But I cannot tolerate people who are trying to be funny playing with all your ego games when it is totally not needed. That said, I am not someone who likes to confront people simply because I don’t feel comfortable with it, or sometimes, I am just too lazy. Also partially because, how many times exactly do you think that your words actually get through to them anyway? I rather spend my time contemplating on how to cushion that sorry ass of the victim if I do care at all.
Rest assured, who ever actually knows the url of this blog isn’t the target of my post. It is more of like a rant from the recent events which reminds me that this happens more often than I have imagined it to be, and I am kind of sick of it.
